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It's Always Worse in the Dark

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My kids have taken up the insane sport of snowboarding and it causes me no end of concern.  I hate to admit that I worry about them but I do.  One time, against my better judgement, I took them up on their offer to join them.  That was a mistake!  I wanted to enjoy the day with them and also thought it would ease my worries somewhat.  It didn’t, those slopes are steep.

 

Lately my 19 year old has been taking his younger brother along.  The trouble is that they leave early in the morning when it’s still good and dark.  It’s cold and the roads are slippery.  I worry about them driving out there, I worry about the integrity of the gondola, I worry about how fast they go and how steep it is.  I worry about them driving home when they are tired.  All of these worries seem multiplied in the dark of the early morning.  Later on in the brightness of a nice winter day, I wonder what I was fussing about.

 

Perhaps you habitually worry about your kids or worry about something all together different.  It’s not healthy and accomplishes absolutely nothing.  I thought I’d share with you a few things I do to mitigate my anxiety.

 

  1. I pray – The bible says to “be anxious about nothing” and to “present your requests to God” and his peace will comfort you.  So I do that.  It’s my biggest help to remember that he loves my kids too.
  2. I remember – I remember the number of times they’ve gone out before and safely returned home again.  I remember that they don’t want to die either!  I remember how I was when I was their age.  Though there are no guarantees, things aren’t as treacherous as I imagine in the dark.
  3. I release – There’s is no other way for them to grow up than to have adventures on their own.  They need to test their mettle and begin to learn to solve the problems that life will bring them.
  4. I do – I do my day.  I get busy with what I need to accomplish and before I know it they are walking in the door.
  5. I Listen – I listen to my wife who reassures me that all is well and will be well.  It’s good to have her sane perspective when my imagination runs amuck in the dark.

 

At best, worry is a waste of time and at worst it shows a lack of faith.  If it’s something you struggle with, I encourage you to find ways to ease your anxiety.  It’s a habit to be sure and one that can easily get out of control if you don’t consciously reign it in.

 

What anti-worry strategies seem to work best for you?

 

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